How to win any argument

So you want to be a great debater and win every argument against your friends and family?

So here's the secret. A little know secret told by a wise man. This could win you any argument. 

Here it is, its to "Shut up". Now let me ask you a question, what happens when you win an argument? When you defeat your opponent? What happens?

Nothing. You gain nothing, just your egos. You get involved in this loud shouting matches but loud does not mean right. You walk away with nothing except wasted time, energy and an enemy probably but no real tangible gain. 

See the truth is, winning means walking away with a new information, a new perspective and maybe even a new friend. So no matter how bad you want to educate somebody on what you know or what you think you know, fight that urge; say what you have to say then close your mouth because that person might have something to teach you if you open to a new perspective; seeing it from their point of view.

So the next time instead of arguing, say "umm, that is intresting, tell me more". Thats how you win.

"Seek to understand before you seek to be understood"